In this article, I’m going to show you why your direct messages are being deleted and what you can do about them.

So, you’re casually using your iPhone and you see a message that says, “So & So wants to send you a message”.

You then check Instagram to look for the message.

It’s either you see the message request but after a few days it disappears, or you don’t know where to find the message in the first place.

I’m going to show you where to find these messages down below and why they have disappeared.

Where to Find Instagram Direct Messages

Instagram direct message requests

If you’ve seen this message request notification pop up on your device, you won’t be able to access this message like any other messages.

Instagram places these messages in a different area of the app because these people don’t follow you.

Since your account is private, it means that you have to accept people’s messages requests as well as their follow requests.

To view the message requests on Instagram:

  • Click on Home button in bottom left
  • Click on Airplane/Messages icon in Upper Right
  • Look just below the search bar
  • You will see Message Requests with number of requests
  • Click on the number of requests, view message and Accept or Decline

Accept decline Instagram DM

If you view the direct message request, the sender won’t see that you viewed it unless you accept their message request.

Once you’ve accepted it, they can see that you’ve seen the message and you can send a message back.

If you decline the direct message request, they’ll have to send one again.

The Reason your Direct Message have Disappeared

There are a few reasons as to why your direct message requests are not showing anymore.

Sometimes it could be due to a bug because this happened to me recently.

Each time I received a message request, it would disappear after a few days and I didn’t know why.

The second reason as to why your dm requests have disappeared is because the account that sent it has unsent the message.

If all the messages sent by the user have been unsent, you’re not going to see the direct message request anymore.

The third reason as to why you won’t able to see your dm request anymore is because you declined the message request.

This means that you rejected that account from sending you messages which means you won’t see the request from them again unless you accept their next request.

Bottom Line

That’s why your Instagram direct messages have disappeared.

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