There are times when you don’t want someone to see if you have read their message. This might be for safety or because you want privacy.
If You Read a Message on Instagram Request, Will They Know?
No, they will not be able to see that you have looked at the message. This is a safety feature that keeps others from knowing until you respond.
When you respond, they will be able to see that you have looked at their messages and that you didn’t respond that you have. This helps people to know when they are getting their messages to read and if there could be another issue that is causing the problem.
Another thing you may run into with the messages and requests is if you are friends with the person or if they are mutual contacts.
Then you won’t have it come up on your requests. This is because the app thinks you want to speak to them because you are already friends with them.
You can’t turn this off, but you can change your settings so others can’t see when you are on and what you are doing. They can still message you and see when you look at their messages, but that will be all.
The only way to change that is to unfollow them, and then it will change to requests if you haven’t interacted with them in the messages.
If you have, there will nothing you can do at all to keep them from seeing when you have looked at their messages beyond just not looking at them at all.
If you have talked to them in the past, and you decide you don’t want them to see you anymore, then you can block them. This will make it so that they can’t see anything you are doing and can’t chat with you at all.
You might want to make sure this is something you really want to do before you do it. It can be undone, but it will cause friction between you and the other person.
Does Instagram Notify When You Read a Message Requests?
No, it doesn’t. It will tell you when there is one there to look at but won’t notify anyone when the message has been read. It will simply sit there and wait for you to do something with it.
If you choose not to answer or not to do anything with the message, then it will just look as though it’s been unread this whole time.
This keeps your privacy, so others don’t know if you choose not to answer them or if you decide the message is something that isn’t appropriate. If you do respond to it, they will be able to see when you look at any other messages that they might send you.
You can put it back into requests if you don’t want to talk to them, or you can simply block them, so they don’t see what you are doing anymore.
This should be a last resort because it’s hard to tell someone that you don’t want to talk to them and blocked them if you know them in everyday life. If you don’t, that will be easier unless they find you on other apps,
What Happens When You Read a Message Request?
When you read a message request, you will see the message and be able to look at it, but no one will be able to see that you looked at it. The message won’t move to where your regular messages are unless you choose to interact with it.
This means messaging them back or liking anything they may have written. If this happens, it will move the message to your normal place for messages, and they will see everything you put on there and when you are online.
When you do, they will be able to see what you are doing unless you decide to block them or something else later on.
You might choose to do this if the interaction becomes something a little too personal or if they are saying things that are not appropriate.
You can also just put them in requests for a bit if they are someone you don’t want to talk to at that moment but you don’t want them to know, and you don’t want to see their messages.
This way, you won’t hurt their feelings, but you also won’t have to deal with whatever they were doing in the first place. You could also have a conversation with them and let them know you didn’t like what they were doing.
If they are open and you have been friends for a while, it might be worth trying rather than potentially destroying a friendship over something that could have been resolved.
1. You’re Able to See Their Message Without It Saying ‘Seen’
This is helpful for you because they won’t know that you are ignoring them, but you can still see the message/ this is great if you want to know what is being said but you don’t want anyone else to know that you know.
Sometimes you want to take a minute before getting into a conversation with someone. This is a great way for that to happen and keep everyone safe. You also can decide if you even want to talk to them without them knowing.
It gives you a chance to check the account of the person sending the message to make sure they are someone you will want to talk to. It also gives you a chance to wait and see if they keep messaging you.
If they do, then you might want to just completely ignore their message all the way around. If they continue and get aggressive, you still have the option to block them, and they will not know what happened.
You will simply disappear from their feed, and they won’t be able to find you. You also will disappear in the messages on their side.
They might be able to see there is a message, but they won’t be able to see anything else of yours. This includes your profile photo and anything you may have posted.
2. You Have the Choice to Accept or Delete the Request
After the message has been sent to you, it’s up to you if you want to answer them back or not. You can deny the message request, and no one will know that it happened but you. It will just look like you are not seeing the message, and that is it.
If you accept it, then you will see their messages when they come in, and they will see that you are seeing them and either not responding or when you are on as well. When they are allowed to connect with you, they can see when you are on and if their message was read.
For your safety, you will want to make sure the message is something you want to interact with before you allow them to connect with you through the messages. If you are not sure, you can accept the request and then block them later on.
This is going to be up to you and what you feel comfortable with. It’s a great tool if you think that someone is going to be okay and then they are doing things that make you uncomfortable.
You can just block them and any future accounts they make, which will keep you out of their sight, and you will be safer than if you just let them do whatever they want to do with your account.
If you have checked out their profile and they seem like they are not that bad and that you would like to talk to them, but sometimes it happens. Using a block is sometimes the only way to get out of something like that.
How to Know If Your Message Request Was Read
There is no way to know if it was read or not. They may just not look at your message. Sometimes the app has a hard time notifying users that they have a request. This can make it possible for them to not even see there was one in the first place.
If you know this person and are worried this might be what the problem is, you can try to message them from another app or through your phone. This way, you will be able to know if they have even seen the message and had a chance to approve you.
You can also comment on one of their posts to let them know you are attempting to get a hold of them. It’s possible they don’t even know you are in their requests.
If they get a lot of requests, then you might have gotten caught up in that, and they may have missed you altogether.
Even if you don’t know them and want to connect through the messages, you can comment on their post, but that doesn’t mean they will accept your request. This is going to be up to them and what they want to do.
Don’t expect someone to message you back if you are bothering them nonstop. This is a red flag for many people, and they might have already decided that you were not someone they wanted to talk to. You might also get blocked because of something like this.
Take your time, and don’t let your feelings get hurt if they don’t talk to you or respond back.
1. They Haven’t Responded to Your Message
If they haven’t responded to you, then they probably haven’t seen it. This is true for people that know each other more than just someone randomly messaging someone, but it does happen for both.
If you think they just haven’t seen it, you can mention to them that you sent a DM through their posts or through other ways that you might be able to communicate with them. This way, you will be able to find out if they have seen the message or not.
If they don’t respond after that, it’s possible they just don’t want to message you on that app. You can just continue to connect through a different app and go from there.
If they tell you that they don’t want to connect on that platform, which can happen if they are using it for business or something else, you can still connect with them on other platforms that you know them on.
If they still are not willing to talk to you on those platforms, then you might want to rethink your friendship.
2. They Accept Your Message Request
If they accept your message request and decided to speak to you, you will be able to see it. The messages you send back and forth will be visible to everyone that is in the message.
If you want to see if they accepted your request, then you can watch the messages and see what it looks like. If you see that they have seen it, that means they went ahead and accepted you and are willing to talk to you.
You will be able to see everything that is posted, and so will they. This is when you need to keep in mind when you look at the messages that they will also be able to see when you are online.
Having your messages accepted gives you all kinds of things that you wouldn’t see if you were not connected like that.
There are a lot of people that want to connect with you that you might not want to allow. That is why message requests are so important. You don’t want to allow everyone to have access to you.
If you are worried about who you are already connected with, then you can choose to block them. Just remember you can still take care of someone that makes you feel uncomfortable if you decide to. That will be up to you.