There are downsides to dating apps of course, but they make it easier than ever to find what you are looking for. That could be a serious mate, casual flings, or whatever you may want from a date. If you are really interested in dating in todays world, you will probably have the most luck on a dating app like Bumble.
A lot of women have found that some dating apps like Tinder have a trend of negative experiences because of how men approach them of the apps. There are many men out there in the dating pool that don’t know how to initiate an actual conversation with a woman on a dating app, or in real life for that matter. Bumble is a response to this issue with Tinder directly. It was created by one of Tinder’s co-founders 2 years after Tinder was released.
Bumble changed the dating app world by making where the women have to engage in conversation with their heterosexual matches to keep from dealing with the unsolicited and vulgar remarks made by men. They still use the swipe right and swipe left set up to match users to one another. This conversation starting rule was a simple change to make but yet it made a huge impact on how men interact with women on the app.
Women have the control and have to take initiative to start a conversation and the men have to let the women have the control which they are not used to, but it makes conversations more comfortable for women which has led to a higher percentage of women users on Bumble than just about any dating app.
How to Tell if Someone Unmatched You on Bumble
One of the most discouraging things on dating apps is when you are having a conversation with someone and then they just seem to disappear for no reason that you could think of. Things seem to be going well and then they stop responding completely. Maybe you said something they didn’t like. Maybe they got back together with their ex and no longer are interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
Sure, the way it should go is them telling you that they aren’t interested or that they found someone else, but some people, especially women, sometimes don’t feel comfortable with saying that because of how the other person is going to react. So, is there a way to find out what happened when these people disappear without a trace?
Well, on the Bumble app there are two ways that a person can “disappear”. They can either delete their entire profile, or they can just unmatch you. If they delete their account on Bumble the conversation will still be available to read everything that was said, but the users name will be displayed as Deleted Profile instead of the users name. If they unmatch you, the conversation will completely disappear and you won’t be able to see anything. Their profile will also disappear from your Matches list in the app.
They may have a reason for unmatching you, or they may not have any reason truly. But that is the problem with dating apps. Even though Bumble is one of the best at keeping things in order, people can still just be weird or maybe they just get bored and want to play with a new toy. Just don’t think that you are the only one that this happens to, because you are not.
There have been some reports of Bumble unmatching people on the app because they started talking through another channel such as texting or calling but Bumble denies these claims. Just remember that the unmatch may have nothing to do with you and again do not take it personal.
How Can You Unmatch With Someone on Bumble?
Perhaps you are the one that is looking to unmatch with someone for one reason or another. The easiest way to do this is just to ignore the match and do not start a conversation with them or reply to them within the 24 hour time limit. The match will simply disappear by itself this way. If they have already initiated the conversation you can just ignore them for another 24 hours after they sent the first message and then the match will disappear.
If you don’t want to wait the time that it takes Bumble to automatically unmatch you, then you can go delete matches manually. All you have to do is hold down the contacts name and then select the Delete Match option. Confirm the deleting of the match when you are prompted to. Once you have deleted a match it is gone for good, so make sure that this is really what you want to do before you go through with it. Don’t worry about whether or not the other person can tell if you unmatched them or not. If you aren’t interested, you aren’t interested.
Unmatching or Blocking?
If you lose interest in someone you have two things that you can do. You can either unmatch them like the section above tells you how to, or you can block and report the user to Bumble. The route you should take is up to your discretion really. If the person just isn’t the right fit for you or is just a little over the top maybe, then just unmatching them should do the trick for you.
If the person is threatening you or acting extremely inappropriately then you should definitely block them and report the user to Bumble immediately so that Bumble can mark the users account and after enough complaints the user will be booted from the app. When you unmatch you will be asked why just like if you decide to block the user. You can choose from options like it just wasn’t a fit, they were abusive, scam or spam account, stolen photo, and others.
The main goal in blocking someone on Bumble isn’t really to protect yourself seeing as how you can just unmatch and never match with them again. The point of blocking and reporting is to help other users from facing the same actions that you did. You should never turn someone in for something that they didn’t do or turn them in for actions that may not actually be inappropriate. But if you run into a legitimately bad person on the app let Bumble know immediately.
What if You Accidentally Unmatch Someone?
Sometimes you make mistakes and maybe that was unmatching someone. It probably happened by leaving your phone open and your leg does the work through your pocket. You may be wondering if you can do anything about this mistake. There is, but it is not a direct path. You can’t use the Backtrack feature and you can’t ask Bumble to just undo the mistake.
You would have to uninstall and install the app again. What this does is clear your history on the app. You don’t need to remake your profile completely, just reinstall. You would also need to limit your search to match the persons info the best you can to try and get them into your deck again.