How to Shoot Your Shot On Instagram

How to Shoot Your Shot On Instagram

Many people want to know how to shoot their shot when connecting with someone on Instagram they really like.

In this informative article, you are about to discover a few simple ways for you to connect with that one special someone in their DMs. So, let’s slide into this information so you can slide into the DMs of your Instagram crush!

Ways to Shoot Your Shot on Instagram

Many people on social media platforms have a long list of people they will consider to be very attractive.

In other words, many people on social media platforms have a long list of crushes. And out of that long list, there are a select few that we want to connect and communicate with.

However, some people don’t know how to take the proper approach in order to connect with someone they like on Instagram.

There are various instances that contribute to this. One of those factors is that people have a fear of rejection.

Some people don’t know the proper steps to take or the perfect words to say because they have never taken the initiative to reach out. And some people who never reach out tend to think the worst in the situation before it even begins.

So, overall, there are many people that can develop a sense of nervousness. And for others, it can be a walk in the park for them. For Instagram users who tend to struggle with this, there are some essential guidelines you can adhere to for you to shoot your shot successfully.

1. You Can DM Them Straight Away

The first method is an alternative that takes courage. Meaning you have to gather your intentions, direct them to your target, and officially shoot your shot. The first method is to go ahead and send them a DM.

I know it seems easier said than done. Typically, if you have been following someone for a very long time because you are very fond of them, you may have random moments where you will want to send a message to them directly.

And sometimes, due to nervousness, you will forget about it immediately based on false excuses you have constructed for why you shouldn’t reach out to them. My friend, this is a common case of DM procrastination.

In the process of shooting a shot, some people would load the bullet into the barrel, place their finger on the trigger, and right before they fire the shot, they will come up with an excuse for why they shouldn’t.

Many thoughts can run through your mind that may hinder you from sending a DM right away. You may think they may not be interested in you, you may not be their type, or they might already be communicating with someone they are interested in.

Although these thoughts are valid, you will never know if you don’t make an attempt to find out.

This is a process similar to a Band-Aid that has been stuck to your skin for a long time. The only way to heal further and feel better is just to rip it off.

In other words, the only way for you to receive clarity and to know if the other person is interested in you as you are interested in them is you just need to send a message.

There are many people that would advise you not to think about it but just do it. However, to rephrase that advice, don’t think about sending the message when it’s time to send it, but think about what you will say BEFORE sending it.

After you have typed out a well-thought-out message, even if that message is simply to say hello, when it’s time to send that message, go ahead and immediately press the send button to send it right away.

The quicker you send a message, the quicker it’ll be over. Who knows, maybe the person you’re sending the message to will immediately DM you with a message you have desperately been waiting for.

2. You Can Reply to Their Story

On Instagram, you have access to view content from all of the people that you follow and from your followers. And if you follow that special someone you have been eyeing for a while, you will be able to see the stories they post on Instagram. 

If you want to know when someone posts a story, it will be best to turn on your Instagram notifications on your device. Doing this will allow you to stay updated with the content your crush posts.

So, as soon as the notification goes off notifying that they have posted a story, you can immediately navigate to the story to post your comment. And after your comment is posted, it will immediately be forwarded to the DMS of your crush. 

This is considered a direct way for you to flirt. Typically, when you flirt in the comments, you may get a playful and flirtatious response to your comment. Moreover, you may even get a DM from that person. 

3. You Can React to Their Story

Just like commenting on their story would get their attention, reacting to their stories would also grab their attention. 

To react to someone’s story, you will open your Instagram app and look for the section with active profile icons at the top of the home screen.

From there, if you see your crush, you will tap on their profile icon to open their story. To react to the story, you will tap on the heart icon to like the post.

Once you react to their story, your crush will get a notification showing your reaction to their story. 

After you react to their story, you may possibly have the favor returned. So, if you decide to post a story, your crush might react to your post as well. Or even better, they might send you a DM. 

4. You Comment on Their Post

The next alternative is just as simple as the previous ones. If you want to shoot your shot to that special someone on Instagram, you can comment on their content.

Once again, if you want to keep track and stay up to date on what content your crush posts on the regular, you will need to ensure that your Instagram notifications are turned on. 

Posting a comment is a quick way to show someone that you are definitely interested in them. Also, for a comment to be public, this can be a method to prevent anyone else from taking your spot.

Not saying that you would be in competition with other people to fight for a shot at love with your Instagram crush. It really depends on your crush and their mindset based on your communication.

If they are into you just as you are into them, the feeling is mutual, and the action will be reciprocated.

Things to Say in the DMs

Shooting your shot is one thing. However, knowing what to say and how to say it is a different scenario. Knowing what to say will paint a bigger picture for you to know your probability and ratio of succeeding. 

It is essential to know what to say to get the response you are looking for. Sometimes, you may have to step outside of the norm. Not saying that you have to step outside of your comfort zone; just change your verbal approach.

For example, there are some people who would approach others with a simple “hi” or “what’s up”.

Some people would consider that to be a turn-off because they feel as if saying “hi” or “what’s up” is showing little effort to show interest. So, verbiage like that would be considered a No-No.

1. You Can Compliment Them

You can compliment them on something you notice in their post. Maybe their appearance, their achievements or what they’re showing off in their post! It’s a good way to build up a friendship with someone over snap that you might want to start a conversation with. You can never go wrong with a compliment.

2. Catch Up With Them And Use The Story As A Starter

If this is a person you haven’t seen for a while, this might be a good time to catch up, see what they’ve been doing and maybe inquire a little bit about the story itself. Saying ‘Hey, what are you up to?’ or ‘Wow, that looks interesting. What’re you doing?’ are good starters.

3. If They’re on Vacation, Say It Looks Nice

If they posted about a vacation they’re going on, complimenting them might be the best move to start a conversation! Maybe you can also get some cool recommendations about places to go over the holidays or invitations.

4. If They Posted Their Pet or a Baby, Say They Look Cute

If it’s a story post of a baby or a small critter, telling them that their pet or the baby is cute is a good way to start a conversation. Asking about when they got them, their routine, etc. are also good ways to catch up with them.

5. If They’re With Their Partner, Say They’re Goals or You’re Trying to Be Like Them

They posted a story with their partner, they look super cute and a good compliment could be that they’re relationship goals. This will show them that you admire them and you appreciate them.

7. If They’re Doing Something Fun, Say It Looks Fun

People often use Instagram stories to show off any fun activities they might be engaging in, such as hobbies or outings. Starting the conversation with ‘That looks fun!’ or ‘Where is that?’ is a good way to start the convo.

8. If They’re Asking For an Opinion, Give Them One

Posts with quizzes, suggestions, or asking questions are common. Use these to state your opinion and find out not only more about yourself, but the person you’re talking to. They may even say ‘Swipe Up’ which is a clear invitation for conversation and a call to action.

9. If It’s Something Funny, Reply with Laughing Emojis

If it’s something funny like a video of someone in a non-fatal fall or a dog doing something unusual, there’s nothing like a string of laughing crying emojis to make sure they know just how hilarious the content is.

10. Ask Them on A Date

See something you like? Swiping on a story and commenting will go directly to their DMs. Don’t be scared to shoot your shot through snap stories.

To step outside of the norm, you have to present verbiage that will spark an intriguing conversation, especially if you are taking the initiative to ask the person on a date.

And if you’re asking the person on a date, this will be considered the end of the road for all the hard work and energy you put into communicating with your crush.

Now, at this point, you need to know what to say in order to close the deal.

So now, let’s bring it on home, shall we?   

Ways to Close the Deal 

So, after following your crush for a while and you have finally taken the initiative to send a message and got the response you were looking for, it’s time to ensure that everything is signed, sealed, and delivered.

Although asking someone on a date can be nerve-wracking, you don’t have to go over the top for a simple first date.

When you are taking the initiative to ask them out for a first date on Instagram, just remember the acronym of KISS.

In other words, Keep It Simple Silly. You don’t have to have a zillion dollars to impress them, nor do you have to woo them with expensive gifts.

Take a look at the next three alternatives that would be considered sweet and simple for dates when asking out your Instagram crush.

1. Ask Them to Go Out For Drinks, Then Ask When They’re Free

The first alternative is to ask them out for a drink. When you are asking them out on this particular date, you can initiate the conversation by letting them know that you would love to have drinks.

After initiating the conversation and letting the other person know what type of data this will be, you can begin to share ideas of what restaurants or bars would be great to visit for a sit-down.

When you are snowballing ideas based on where to go, ensure the conversation doesn’t last too long.

If you have been messaging each other for approximately half an hour trying to debate where to go, you or the other person might lose interest. So, be sure to enforce a little bit of time management when having this type of conversation so you can get to the point.

After you have asked them about the date and they have agreed to your proposition, you can then proceed to ask them when they are free so the date can officially be set in motion. 

2. Ask Them to Go For Coffee, Then Ask When They’re Free

Having a coffee date is a typical date. However, going out to a local coffee shop is a great way to be in an open environment on a first date.

Just like if you chose the alternative to ask them out for drinks at a local bar or restaurant, snowball ideas on local coffee shops that are up and coming or well known.

Also, if you follow your crush’s content and you notice they are coffee lovers, you can scroll through the pictures or videos to see where they enjoy their favorite house blend.

You can then utilize that information to ask them out on a date at their favorite coffee shop instead. Now, that would be very smooth of you.

And of course, after you have asked them about the date and they have agreed, it is essential to ask them when they are free, so the connection can continue and finally go on a date.

3. Ask Them to Go For A Walk, Then Ask When They’re Free

Last but certainly not least, you can simply ask them for a walk. Going for a walk on a first date is considered to be very romantic.

When you go for a walk, you have a chance to communicate on a deeper level. There are some studies that show when you’re walking and talking simultaneously; you tend to spark longer conversations.

And not only will the conversations be longer, but they will be more meaningful.

If you’re asking someone to go for a walk with you on a first date, you want to be certain of the location where you’ll be walking.

There are a couple of locations that you can consider. You can go for a walk on the beach, or you can go for a stroll in the park.

If you are going for a barefoot walk on the beach, this is a great opportunity for both of you to feel the cool water drenching your feet as you walk the shoreline, talking about everything under the sun.

And if you go for a walk in the park, you will have a chance to sightsee and enjoy nature as you get to know one another.

Just like the previous alternatives, once you have asked them to go for a walk with you as a first date and they have agreed, be sure to ask them when they are free so that time is set aside for you to take that romantic stroll. 

Final Thoughts

As you can see, Instagram is more than a social media platform for you to meet and connect with family and friends.

There are many consumers who use the application to shoot their shots and show their game to potential love interests and crushes.

With that being said, for you to take the correct approach, it’s not about what you say; it’s how you say it.

The alternatives mentioned in this article are steps that allow you to proceed with the action and develop the intention behind your actions to shoot your shot the right way.

Some ways you can shoot your shot at that special someone is by sending them a DM right away, you can reply to their stories, react to their stories, and comment on the content they post.

And when it comes to certain things to say in their DMs, you can start by asking them out for drinks at a local bar or a coffee date, or you can simply ask them out for a walk in the park or on the beach.

So, on that note, aim to shoot and shoot to succeed!

David Johnson is a freelance writer with 9 years of experience writing for Techzillo and other established tech outlets like iMore. His focus and key interests are Apple and accessibility as well as consumer technology in general. Read our Editorial Guidlines and Fact Checking process.


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