It hits hard when someone you have matched with on eHarmony closes the connection and you can no longer chat to them. So, how do you know when a contact closes the connection? Are there notifications or indications to find out?
In this article, I will answer all the questions you may have about if a match closes you on eHarmony, and everything else there is to know about losing a connection on the platform. Every detail in this article is well researched so you are sure to have the right information when next you open the app and start interacting again.
How To Know If A Match Closed You On eHarmony
First of all, discard anything you may have heard about getting sent an email or push or in-app notification when a match closes their connection with you on eHarmony. It simply does not happen.
When a match closes you on the app, they simply disappear from your list of connections and conversations, and you disappear from theirs. That’s it. Nothing else can be an indication that they have closed the connection.
This can be confusing because a match can also disappear from your list if they delete their eharmony profile. And just as when they delete their profile, you will no longer be shown their profile and vice versa when they close your connection.
It’s just as if the connection never happened and your only options are either to move on, or create a new profile and hope to be matched with them again.
So, to be clear, when a match closes their connection with you:
- They will disappear from your profile
- You will not get any email, push, or in-app notification
- They will not be matched with you ever again on the same account
Will People Know If You Block Them On eHarmony
Yes, and no. I mean, they will not get any form of notification or message that you have blocked them. But they will no longer find you in their connections. Or anywhere else on the app for that matter. So, they will suspect that you blocked them. But that’s all they can do; suspect. They can never know for sure unless they make a new account and get matched with you again.
Here’s the thing. There’s actually no block button or option on eHarmony. The process for closing a connection is the same as blocking the match. The outcomes are also the same: you disappear from each other’s list of connections.
This is why it’s important to think about blocking or removing a contact carefully, because you do not get a second chance. There is no list of blocked contacts anywhere on your profile where you can go and unblock matches.
To block a match on eHarmony:
- Go to their profile and click on the menu (the three dots) at the top-right.
- For matches you haven’t yet communicated with, choose Delete Match
- For matches you’re already in communication with, choose Remove Contact. Alternatively, in your Messages section, go to the menu in the top right of your inbox and choose Remove Contact. You’ll be asked for a reason for doing so. Fill in the reason if you like.
The match will merely suspect that you have blocked them when they no longer find you in their connections list or messages. There’s nothing they can do about it, either.
The good thing about eHarmony is that, unlike most other dating sites where you can swipe or even search locations for profiles, eHarmony does the matching for you. So, when you block the person, they have no other way to find you. Well, unless they make a new profile and eHarmony makes the match again.
What Does It Mean When A Match Disappears On eharmony?
When a match disappears, it means either of 4 things:
- They have closed your connection or removed you as a contact or unmatched you or blocked you. It is all the same thing on eHarmony. When this happens, they disappear from your view on eHarmony.
- They have deleted their eHarmony account. They are no longer a member of eHarmony so you can’t find their profile anymore either on your list of matches or list of conversations.
- They are in the state of New York and have temporarily suspended their membership. eHarmony users in the state of New York can pause their membership or subscription. They can do this by reaching out to eHarmony Customer Care with the period of time they need their account paused. When they do this, they will disappear from your view for that period. They may come back later, and you will see their profile again.
- Their account has been deleted by eHarmony. Why? Well, here is what eHarmony have to say on the subject:
“eharmony reserves the right to immediately suspend or terminate your access to any of the
Services, without notice, for any reason or no reason. We also reserve the right to remove
your account information or data from our Services and any other records if your account
and/or access to the Services is terminated.”
So, when a match disappears, especially if you were having a very good connection with the person, it is possible that they had their account removed by eHarmony. That’s why it’s a good idea to exchange contacts as soon as you create a good connection with a match.
Will A Match Know If You Closed On eHarmony
No, a match will not know if you closed the connection on eHarmony. The same principle applies to if they close you. It doesn’t matter who does the closing, the outcome is the same:
- There is no email or notification or message
- You simply disappear from their list, and they disappear from yours
- There is no way to connect with each other again on eHarmony unless one party makes a new account and gets matched by eHarmony again.
Why Do Matches Disappear On eHarmony
Matches can disappear on eHarmony for either of 4 reasons:
- They have closed your connection or removed you as a contact or unmatched you or blocked you. It is all the same thing on eHarmony. When this happens, they disappear from your view on eHarmony
- They have deleted their eHarmony account. They are no longer a member of eHarmony so you can’t find their profile anymore either on your list of matches or list of conversations.
- They are in the state of New York and have temporarily suspended their membership. EHarmony users in the state of New York can pause their membership or subscription. They can do this by reaching out to eHarmony Customer Care with the period of time they need their account paused and when it’s done, they will disappear from your view for that period. They may come back later, and you will see their profile again.
- Their account has been deleted by eHarmony. Why? Well, here is what eHarmony have to say on the subject:
“eharmony reserves the right to immediately suspend or terminate your access to any of the
Services, without notice, for any reason or no reason. We also reserve the right to remove
your account information or data from our Services and any other records if your account
and/or access to the Services is terminated.”
As at the time of writing this article, these are the only reasons why a match may disappear on eHarmony.
When a match disappears on your eHarmony, it can be frustrating. Especially if you were having a good conversation with the person. In most cases, the person did unmatch you. And there are any number of reasons why this can happen. Some people are even scared of getting too close, for example.
If you were making concrete plans with this person and they suddenly disappear, it is possible that their account got removed. If it was just another good conversation, it is possible that they just found reason to move on, and so should you.